Chakras: The Keys to Letting your Emotions Work for, not against you

The process of invoking the divine feminine through the spiritual practice of tantra to experience balance and harmony in life requires an important understanding of the subtle body energies. Volumes and volumes have been written on this topic, and much of this knowledge is esoteric and never recorded.  I will try to give you a short and concise understanding to begin with, a “tantric snack” as one unfriendly observer dubbed it–a condescending taunt of my encouragement of self, rather than guru driven tantric exploration.  Despite the rude intent I actually like the term so here goes your tantric snacky-snack:

There is our physical body, and our subtle body.  A subtle body is described as a series of psycho-spiritual components made of energy, and is not visible with the naked eye or medical technology.  Movement, flow, and balance of these energies, affected by meditation, breath, and arousal permeate all aspects of life by dictating perspective and consciousness at all times.

There at least four subtle bodies:

  • Etheric body – prana (the breath)
  • Astral – desires, emotions (chakras)
  • Mental – concrete (lower mind)
  • Causal – abstract (higher mind)

(Each) subtle body is an energy field which has a structure, which influences and gives life to the physical body. This body has several interconnected layers, but of interest here are the first four: the etheric body, the template of and interface with the physical body, where sensation is perceived; the astral/emotional body, which relates to the individual’s emotional state; the mental body, which contains the thinking patterns; and the causal body, the soul or level of higher intuition. ~Roz Carroll [Read more...]

African American Women and the Divine Feminine

Healing individuals, families, and communitiesOshun by Brigid Aswood
Warning: I’m about to get all Afrikka Bambatta on you. I lovingly invite African American women everywhere to gather around this sacred fire. Boomshakalackaboom *waves fragrant incense around*  Ok, silliness aside . . .I see that we have important, restorative work to do. There needs to be a women’s movement to re-establish balance in our families and in our communities at-large. The movement is powered by our ability to tap the divine feminine or sensual spirituality.  Black women in particular are needed to lead our own charge.

Shared Struggles
Our collective history has blessed us with strength, fortitude, and resilience. But it has also cursed us with identity struggles, health issues, social and economic challenges, as well as attacks from all sides by the mainstream American culture.  And how does this affect our families and our communities?

  • Historic racial and gender injustices. Lately, turn on the news, or log onto social media and what we see about what is going on today is enough to make us scream. We desperately need our divine feminine power to help us raise strong children in a society that continuously depicts or girls as inherently unattractive, hyper-sexual, and unworthy; and our boys as dangerous, criminal, unintelligent, and less than human.  ENOUGH! [Read more...]

What is a Sensual Lifestyle Like?

A sensual lifestyle is one where you experience some joy every single day, no matter what, and that joy is not based on what you have, what you do, or who you know.   It comes from entirely within.  A sensual lifestyle is based on the philosophy and world view of tantra. The characteristics of a sensual lifestyle may differ slightly from person to person, but there are some commonly shared aspects. It is authentic, it’s super-juicy, joyful, and attracts more joy.   It’s primary and immediate — right here and right now.  This concept is very abstract and esoteric, so bear with me while I try to explain what it looks, feels, sounds, tastes, and smells like.

It’s how you feel when you’ve found the style that is so you, so REALLY you that you are like a gorgeous Goddess just the way you are right now, completely unlike the incomplete feeling you get when you get to a certain coveted size or weight.   It’s the freedom and  confidence of inner beauty that allows the natural outer beauty show through, it’s like that Ugly Betty carefree beauty.  It’s the kind of beauty that you don’t need to fiddle with or worry about. This beauty makes you attractive to potential partners who really want you for who you are, not a set of statistics or facade.  You find out that OMG! you’re sexy!  Not necessarily the corporate media’s representation of sexy.  I’m talking about the REAL grown-up irresistibly juicy sexy that can make a grown man cry.  You can throw something together at the last minute and feel like a million bucks (and not think about how you look, instead focusing on having some fun).

You can really taste. Not just sugar and salt, suddenly you’ll notice a huge array of subtle different flavors that previously [Read more...]

Ask Lisa: Setting Boundaries

(Ask Lisa is not formally a new series.  It started as an impromptu call for questions while I was bored on the sofa on Sunday afternoon.)

The question was, how do you set good boundaries after you’ve been hurt a time or two without coming off like you’re carrying a lot of baggage?

Your boundaries are actually not for other people, they are for you.  They are rules that you set for yourself that represent the way you would like to be treated.  Imagine how overwhelming it must be for a guy who has just met you to be bombarded with a laundry list of your boundaries.  Of course he’s going to feel like running in the opposite direction because he is under attack.  The purpose of your boundaries is to consciously establish what behaviors you will and will not accept from your partner in advance, so you would not be overwhelmed by the element of surprise if they are crossed, and it is your responsibility to act accordingly to ensure that your boundaries are respected.

Keep your boundaries to yourself, but honor them no matter what. Do not let the myths of too few eligible black men or lack [Read more...]

My New Year’s Quiet Revolution

It’s the end of the year.  I love that the new year is the most defined abrupt change of the year.  You see, spring comes gradually.  But after the dark and noisy December holidays come a brighter, quieter, more peaceful January.  It’s natural to want to use this time to make a big dramatic change in our lives.

You already know I don’t do new year’s resolutions and I don’t do diets.  You’ve heard me say it before, we trade in the darned noisy toy and jewelry advertisements all in our faces just for them to be traded out for ridiculous diet plan and exercise gadget commercials.  But by spring how many people are actually more fit than they were on January 2?  I don’t have hard statistics but you and I both know the number is probably less than 20.  20 people in America.

So!  I’m saving you from my whole bah humbug new year’s resolutions are so stupid presentation.

And I’m not preparing any rah!-rah! come on everybody and do this thing with me project.  Been there, failed terribly.

This revolution is about body image.  It’s quiet because it’s intimate, personal, not done in a class, and introspective in nature.  Why share it with you?  Because perhaps you’ll find it useful in your own journey. If not, that’s fine too. [Read more...]

6 Simple Steps to Gorgeous–No makeup, plastic surgery, or Photoshop necessary.

Photo: Matthew Rolston

This photo is featured in O Magazine, of normal size supermodel, Katie Halchishick and founder of Healthy is the New Skinny, posing naked with surgeon’s markings indicating how much of her would need to be chopped off to give her the same proportions as the toy she’s holding. Whaaa?

The same way that greed is the root of evil, negative body image is the root of ugliness.  Have you ever witnessed the not-super-attractive woman walk into a room and light it up like a Xmas tree?  How does she do it?  She does it the same way that so many pretty women make themselves hideous by shlumping around being catty and self loathing.  It’s all in your mind’s image of yourself. [Read more...]

I’m Bringing Back Tantra!

(No! Not the freaky naked hairy people running around in the woods weird thing you saw on HBO Real Sex)

So, everybody can do one of three things:

This is NOT what we do here!

  • Jump right in and join me by interacting online and/or attending my workshops or free seminars (to come);
  • Safely explore this complex topic from the sidelines by reading more of these posts and trying techniques on your own to learn how to make life more fun, meaningful, and delicious;
  • Run away, chicken!  You are not comfortable with this sorta (but not really) woo-woo stuff and feel that Lisa is a crazified loon who is hell bent on living a fully connected life and being too footloose and fancy free of cultural constraints.

So there.  If you want to know exactly what tantra is go here. [Read more...]

Ready for Spring? Sensual Lifestyle and Wellness Coaching Groups Forming Now

Get healthy and enjoy life at the same time!

What if you could take the misery and drama out of maintaining a healthy body and mind? You can, with our playful work on creating an individualized, holistic approach to living, you will get healthy, prevent illness (such as diabetes or high blood pressure), or lose fat.

Most (but not all) of my clients hire me to help them lose weight.  They are very successful because in this program they don’t sit around all day obsessing about trying to lose weight.  They move, they grub, and before they know it, BAM! their clothes are too big.

This is what we do:

  • Get real about your fitness and weight goals and align them with the honest amount of effort you wish to exert, without any judgment;
  • Develop a sensual eating style around nutrilicious foods that please your palate;
  • Explore exciting and realistic movement options that fit your interests and physical ability;
  • Elevate your self esteem by sharing the journey with supportive, positive, adoring Goddess peers;
  • Prevent relapse into past unhealthy habits;
  • Let loose and act a damn fool!

The program works like this: [Read more...]

Bellydance Femininity, Sensuality, and Eroticism

Last night I got to dance more and harder than I have since last summer and it felt so good.  I LOVE bellydance.  It’s my passion.  It my most potent mode of expression besides words and my face.  I rarely write about my art because it’s way too tedious.  Some other day I’ll tell you why.

I started out with classical Egyptian style as my foundation, similar to how ballet is often the foundation for jazz and modern dancers.  I studied classical Egyptian for around 6 years before I started to experiment with Turkish and Persian bellydance stylings and later Bollywood.  After around 10 years I spent a few years seriously studying modern (not belly) dance.  I was having fun with technique and flow and different rhythms.  After 13 or 14 years of bellydance, I wanted to go deeper than the mechanical, into the emotional and the spiritual.  Somehow I landed in the study of kundalini tantra. [Read more...]

Build a Personal Spirit Altar for Inspiration

Creating and using altars are not only used for religious ritual, strictly confined to Eastern religions, or polytheistic worship. In fact, an altar can be these things, but in reality, an altar is defined by its creator. A personal spirit altar can be a practical reminder the important elements of the spiritual journey on an everyday basis, a simple collection of items that makes the creator feel good, or a peaceful area to reflect and rejuvenate.

The depth of meaning of an altar is not established by some unknown mystical force. It can be as light or as serious as the creator wishes. The creation and use of a personal spirit altar is not necessarily sacrilegious or iconological worship. While some may use the altar for worship it is perfectly acceptable to place certain statues or representations of deities or other items to serve as a reminder of some important attributes that the creator wishes to emulate or to invoke particular energies into the creator’s life and space.

There are many reasons to create a personal spirit altar. Among them are: [Read more...]

My Chat with Somebody’s Thighs

I went to my husbands gym with him to work on getting my legs and knees strong enough to teach and perform bellydance again next month.  I went to do the quad machine (don’t know the real name of it) which is right in front of the big mirror.  When I stepped off the machine I got a glimpse of the rarely seen in the dead of winter backs of my thighs.  I couldn’t believe my eyes.

Whoa!  Whose are THOSE!?

The conversation could have gone like this:

OMG I HATE YOU!  Big ole’ fatty thick cottage cheesy lumps of mush!  Where the hell did you two hamhocks come from?  [Read more...]

Happy Solstice and Welcome to the Golden Age of Truth and Beauty

It’s December 21, 3:28am, the winter solstice 2010.  I woke up to get a glimpse of the total lunar eclipse this morning.  Earlier I had been looking for historical or ancient symbolism of this unique event, a lunar eclipse on the winter solstice.  The winter solstice is the time when the sun reaches its lowest point in the northern sky.  The day of the winter solstice is essentially the shortest of the year in the Northern Hemisphere.  The seasonal significance of the winter solstice is in the reversal of the gradual lengthening of nights and shortening of days.

While I gazed out of my bedroom window (did you think I was really going outside in the 20 degree temps?) at the progression of the eclipse, it came to me.  The solstice is the darkest and longest night of the year.  [Read more...]

I Love the F**k It Way

Tantrikas say, “Delight in the senses and flow with the subtle energies”.

Metaphysical types say, “stay present and don’t judge”.

Psychoanalists say, “feed your inner child”.

But how can we sum all this up for the regular folks?

Just fuck it.

I’ve always lived this way, and sometimes people just didn’t understand.  My dad always used to say, “Lisa only does what Lisa wants to do”. I was always baffled by his statement because I thought (but NEVER said) “well, what the hell else should I do?”

I don’t attend baby showers (fuck it, I just go online and send a gift).  I don’t buy black pants, even if someone says they slenderize, fuck it, I’ll just be fat.  I don’t eat beets and I don’t wear pumps.  Why?  Because I don’t want to.  I don’t stress about how other people say I should raise my child, and I don’t give a rat’s hairy ass if my neighbors think I’m scandalous and I feel good about it.

So,  I can’t believe I didn’t come up with the F**K it Way myself.  Someone else constructed a philosophy that so succinctly and perfectly sums up how we should be (if we want to).  I LOVE LOVE LOVE this so I’m going to share it with you all now.

That brilliant somebody  is John C. Parkin. The son of Anglican preachers, realized that saying F**k It was as good as all the eastern spiritual practices he’d been studying for 20 years. Having said F**k It to a top job in London, he escaped to Italy to set up the retreat center The Hill That Breathes, where he now teaches regular ‘F**k It Weeks’ with his wife Gaia.

How F**k It Works, Pt. I:  (from the Facebook notes)
You realise that things don’t matter so much after all.
Most of us believe that meaning and purpose in life are good things to have: where the heck would we be without a sense of meaning and purpose for goodness’ sake?

In fact, from a young age we start to pursue meaning – and the bigger MEANING – of life. This process usually culminates at around age 18, late at night, drunk and arguing with other students about The Meaning of Life.

Funny, then, that we get so much relief from saying F**k It to things as adults… given that we usually say F**k It when the things that mean a lot to us have begun to cause us pain. For example, if keeping fit means a lot to you, but the early morning runs or the squeezed-in gym sessions have started to become like torture – then you’d say F**k It and stop training, or do something else.

When we say F**k It, we say ‘Well, it’s causing me so much pain, it’s not that important is it?’.

And as we start to say F**k It to things in our lives, we realise that it’s the things most matter – that mean the most – that either cause us pain or have the potential to cause us pain.

Saying ‘F**k It’ reduces the hold that these ‘meanings’ have on us.
In Buddhist terms, we begin to release our attachments.
And meaning is attachment.

The logical conclusion to this, of course, is that nothing matters, really. And this is a horrifying possibility to most people. It is, after all, the opposite of the purpose/meaning drive that I mentioned earlier… the drive that pushes people through their lives… the drive that takes people from the search for meaning through material things, through love and relationships… and then through the search for ‘spiritual’ meaning.

Very few people get to the perception that ‘nothing matters’… but stopping the relentless search for meaning in its tracks is not a bad idea.
This starts with the perception that ‘meaning’ always has the potential to cause pain. It starts with the perception that most things don’t matter as much as we think they do. It starts with saying ‘F**k It’ to the things that are causing you pain.

When you do this, you start to sense the irresistible whiff of freedom… and that’s a wonderful and addictive thing.

Feminine Spiritual Revolution

In ancient times, the initial concept of a higher being was feminine.  Most societies worshiped the Goddess, the Great Mother, creator, provider, and sustainer.  Civilization was matriarchal, however, there is little archaeological evidence that the female members of these societies held themselves superior over their male counterparts. Humankind was in harmony with nature.   Generally goddess worship had been balanced with the honoring of both the male and the female spiritual attributes.

Eventually, as societies became less agrarian and more technological, the Goddess was replaced with a mighty but wrathful male god figure, and the ensuing cultural programming of patriarchy separated human beings from the biological reality of the natural world. Thus, the masculine attributes of aggression, greed, and hyper-competitiveness became exaggerated and dominant while the feminine characteristics of giving, nurturing and creativity of the species were repressed.

Mother Earth by Lisa Iris

As a result of the repression of the feminine archetype, there arose a violent and pathological imbalance in the our world. This was reflected in the devaluation and gross abuse of women in the culture at large, and the replacement of the feminine values of peace and cooperation, manifesting itself in excessive competition, domination and needless violence.  People began dying from heart disease and respiratory illnesses, brought on by psychological stress and environmental degradation. Sadly, in this dark age of declining cultural values concepts such as justice, equality, human rights, and common sense rapidly deteriorated.

Fast forward to today, it’s time for a revolution.  We are not talking of a new religion here.  Much blood has been spilled in the name of religion.  We are upon a resurgence of feminine spirituality.  Spirituality, unlike religion, emanates from within and is a deeply personal voyage, and each person must find their own path and answers in their own unique way.

Goddess, by her many faces across continents and cultures is a role model for tolerance, inclusivity and diversity. She represents restoration of the sacred, oneness and life-affirming values.  Whether deity, archetype or ideal, the “feminine face of god” can become common ground – a broad and diverse umbrella under which many can gather and find safety from the storm of chaos.  She makes no demands people worship no other god but her, entitling select groups to feel they are the chosen people with the only keys to the kingdom – or with the right to convert the other heathens of the world. No fatwas, inquisitions or crusades in the name of Goddess. No decimation of foreign cultures deemed “other.” Nor does Goddess give humanity the right to dominate and exploit the natural resources of Earth, its people and creatures. Within Goddess Spirituality, we are stewards and caretakers of Earth and its many peoples, not the masters. ~Karen Tate, www.karentate.com

So when we embrace the concept of the divine feminine both individuals and communities benefit.  Men and women alike are able to break free of old harmful patterns and tip the scales away from dominance and aggression and towards creative power, sensuality and intuition for a more benign human existence on this planet.  The masculine energies will not become namby-pambyfied, and the feminine energies will not become rough and mannish. There will be a balancing act of the two energies resulting in actions that stem from thoughtful, cooperative, and intentional actions.

As women, we will put an end to the abuse and martyrdom that has plagued us and resulted in full scale death and destruction.  We can rise to the occasion and be effective sisters, partners, and givers of life.  We can shape our individual and collective destinies and grow and prosper.  I don’t believe that we will literally create a Utopian society where war and conflict no longer exist.  However, balance is the key.  Now is the time to raise the Divine Feminine aspect in all of us to her rightful stature, creating a balance and respect between the masculine and feminine energies within and without.  Are you ready?

I’m on a mission to change the world for the better, one lifestyle at a time. If you’ve enjoyed this post, please spread the love by sharing on Facebook or Twitter (click an icon below) or emailing it to a friend.  Quick, do it now! Thanks lovely.

What is Tantra? An Informal Explanation

I have been getting this question a lot more lately, “what’s tantra”?  Nobody wants to hear my well thought out and researched dissertation on the topic.  They want to know what it is, what it means to me, how it could help them, in 90 seconds or less.   So here we go:

Tantra is a way of life, a world view, and a spiritual practice that involves full and non-judgmental acceptance of self and the full integration of mind (intellect), body (senses), and spirit (heart, connectedness to all of creation) into one unified being.  So you see your whole self not as good or bad, but just as is.  Tantra goes against the Puritanical concept that the physical body is dirty or sinful, and instead views sensuality (the senses – hearing, seeing, feeling, smelling, and tasting) and sexuality as inseparable from the spiritual self.  In short, tantra is like sensual yoga.  Tantra does not however, degenerate into the practice of hedonism, or overindulgence and irrational devotion to extreme pleasure.  The idea is that passion and desire are pathways to experience a higher state of spiritual consciousness, or pure contentment.  The practice of tantra, much like yoga, taps into subtle energies and moves them through meditation (both moving and still), visualization, and ritual to affect health, beauty, state of mind, and overall wellness.

Tantra does not require adherence to any particular religious beliefs, dogma, or rituals and rejects all forms of prejudice. The only required ideal is to live as a whole and authentic human being, without the exclusion of natural passion, creativity, enjoyment, and sensual perception in order to become and remain deeply connected with life.  Tantra is not all fun and games.  It is challenging in that you must remain “present” most of the time.  To be present means to be unattached to the past or preoccupied with the future.  The focus is on the here and now.

I originally sought tantra as a way to experience a new dimension to my bellydance.  It turned out to be an effective means of anger management, greatly developed my sense of intuition, enhanced my sex life, and helped me to be a more effective parent. In broader terms tantra is very useful in stress relief, living a lifestyle that promotes wellness, emotional stability, more meaningful relationships, and general success in challenging endeavors.

 

The Grace in Falling Apart

by Pamela Slim
from Corporate Prisoner to Thriving Entrepreneur

There is a dark, ugly and awkward place that many self-help enthusiasts don’t want to tell you about.

Sometimes it comes up from behind and hits you in the head like a wooden plank.

Like when you get scary results back from a cancer test, or learn your spouse is cheating, or lose your job.

Other times it creep ups on you inch by inch as you are in the midst of being busy.

Like when you wake up one day and realize that you really want to do something different but don’t know what. And that your current work feels hollow, and meaningless. And that you know you have done great stuff in the past, but don’t know if you are capable of doing great stuff in the future.

It is the meantime, and it happens when you leave the comfortable, creative groove of feeling secure in your life and enter into the territory of I have no idea what is going on and I really want to feel better and won’t it stop now?

It can feel really, really awful.

The reason it feels awful is that you have no grounding. You are not producing great work. Your long-term relationships feel awkward.  Your sleep is fitful. You want to do something but don’t know what it is. Most people don’t understand it. You don’t understand it. You just want to go back to the way things were in the “good times.” You want to be a Linchpin, a world changer, a force for good. But all you can manage to do is watch reruns of Law & Order.

In the confusion, there is grace

If you let yourself sit with the confusion and sometimes dread, sadness and anxiety, a wonderful thing happens.

You find yourself.

Under the fancy degrees and impressive experience and a stellar community profile, there sits a quiet and unassuming person.

One with the confidence and wonder of a 5-year old. One without preconceived notions of what is responsible and appropriate and without fear of disappointing anyone but herself.

And you can ask her: If none of this frenetic activity really mattered, what would I be doing?

Or perhaps:

  • Who do I really want to work with?
  • If I had a dying breath and had to say something to the inhabitants of this planet, what would it be?
  • How do I want to spend my limited time on earth?
  • Who do I really love? Who really loves me?

Great, meaningful, deeply significant work happens when you really marinate in the meantime.

It is not a distraction from the creative process, it is the creative process.

Khalil Gibran explains this perfectly in The Prophet:

“Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.

Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain.

And could you keep in your heart the miracles of your life, your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy;

And you would accept the seasons of your heart, even as you have always accepted the seasons that pass over your fields.

And you would watch with serenity through the winters of your grief.”

If you are feeling awkward and out of sorts, take a deep breath and sink into the feeling.

Renewed creative spirit must be just around the corner.

Sometimes Being a Goddess Means Getting What You Want…duh?

Sometimes being a Goddess means getting exactly what you want. So being that I am a Goddess, why the heck am I surprised when it happens! I’ve recently embarked on some personal journeys, some for growth and understanding, some for just plain silliness and amusement. With all of them I have found that I am often surprised and in recent instances flat-out shocked when everything goes my way. How is it that with all the study and meditation I put into my spiritual practise, all my belief in the power of positive energy, focus, and visualization, that this Goddess can amaze herself with her own power?

And honestly it’s not just amazement. There is no real problem in being amazed. The problem arises as this amazement is accompanied by a little fear and trepidation. It’s like running so fast you think you could fly, and then freaking completely out when you look down and your feet no longer touch the ground. Imagine the anxiety felt when the sky is the limit but your not sure what direction to go in, or worse yet, how in the world your gonna get back down. Here is where I find myself. I’m at this junction where I have willed several scenarios into being. And now it is the job, the duty of the Goddess to act responsibly, steer the ship if you will. But I don’t know a thing about flying except that I’ve always wanted to do it!

I’m laughing now as I think about it. It’s funny how one can come to a moment so self affirming and self actualized and be hurled into a spiral of self-doubt as a result of it. Being confronted with your own strength can be terrifying because you realize that the “what if” monster isn’t dead. Has not been extinguished by your confidence or valor. That even at your highest point, you can still have a moment of doubt within yourself where you question, “What if I screw this whole thing up?”. This just proves to me further that one’s biggest adversary is the one that lies within. Now what am I going to do?

This is the point where one needs to focus harder and see the visualizations to the end. This is where self-doubt is dismissed and something stronger than faith is taken up and made to surround you. I say stronger than faith because by this point you have already proven your ability. At this point it is a matter of believing it. I don’t just think I can fly, I know I can!

What is Carefree Beauty?

Carefree beauty is casual beauty that is natural and undeliberate and appealing to the senses beyond simply the visual. It does not involve hiding anything or putting anything on gaudy display. Someone who has carefree sensuality does not try too hard. She never buys in to the heavily orchestrated overly sexualized showy motions of the insecure attention starved girls with the desperate hope that every eye is on her. A woman with carefree sensuality can throw on a sundress with no bra and an old pair of sandals to meet friends in a cafe, and her efforts do not vary based on the gender of those she comes in contact with.

Carefree beauty begins with confidence, not the confidence of a peacock strutting around a courtyard beckoning a glance from every passerby, but the confidence that allows for paying attention to surroundings and not being preoccupied with every detail of one’s self. She cares about how she looks but she is not obsessed with it. She emits a powerful energy force that attracts people of both genders while they have no idea why. It is a rich and decadent beauty that can’t be faked or bought in a bottle and goes far deeper than just looks, into the soul.

Sensuality and Health

Sensuality is healthy

Yes, something as scrumptious as sensuality is extremely instrumental in improving health. Sensuality is not about burning calories trying new sex positions. Sensual awareness positively affects health by greatly reducing stress, generating more physical and mental energy from within, and creating an easy and foolproof method of weight control. Sensuality involves daily practices in which attention is focused on passion, creativity, enjoyment, and sensual perception in order to become and remain deeply connected with life.

How is this possible?

Paying close attention what you feel, see, hear, smell, and taste, creates a sweet respite from life’s discomforts and challenges and also allows you to come out of your head and observe your body and mind in an objective way. In a way, sensuality is expanded awareness of your breathing and energy movements. The body has various internal energies that work on their own to maintain homeostasis, or healthy equilibrium, that is your natural state. When your senses are alert, you are able to recognize the calm, awake, relaxation that occurs because you have stepped outside of your analytical mind. Many physiological changes take place as you focus on subtle sensorial pleasures. Breathing deepens and slows, blood pressure normalizes, oxygen is directed to areas of the body that need it, helping the body to repair itself, and preventing new damage due to the physical effects of stress.

The science behind sensuality

Sensual enjoyment alters the chemistry of your body and brain to direct the body to a state of health and vitality. The brain and nervous system are transmitters and receptors of electromagnetic energy, similar to the earth’s poles. Like magnets, we can attract these energies into and within the body. The state of the mind has a direct effect of the body’s internal energy flow as well as the interaction between the internal and external energies. The more sensitive you are to the energy movements, the easier it becomes to direct these energies to the body parts and organs where it is needed for strengthening or healing. Blockages of energy in tissues and organs create disease and degeneration. Once the energy flows are stabilized, the body operates more efficiently because energy is not wasted or stifled, and there is more available for exercise and everyday movement.

Sensual food

Preparing and enjoying food is extremely sensual. When you bring consciousness to food and create a pleasurable ambiance, it is impossible to engorge yourself with unhealthy foods. Taking time to arrange the food attractively and receive the food with gratitude and full presence will not only make you take notice of what kinds of food you put into your mouth, but it also greatly extends the pleasure gained from eating smaller portion sizes and finding satisfaction with less. Essentially, mealtime can be an effective meditation. Taking your time and taking pleasure with the aromas, textures, and tastes of the food aids in easier digestion and allows the feeling of satisfaction and fullness to kick in before you have eaten too much. The food choices that you make as part of a mindful eating plan will gradually become healthier, fresher, with more emphasis on natural fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins, seemingly with no effort at all. When you indulge in decadent foods in a mindful manner, you are allowed to enjoy the experience in moderation, without the guilt and without worry of gaining weight. Unhealthy cravings subside greatly. Mindful eating is incredibly easy and leaves you more satisfied, with no complicated diet plans or restrictions.

Sensual you!

Make time for creativity and sensual experiences every day. It is not too good to be true that you can release stress, maintain a healthy weight, and increase physical energy without a grueling, complicated regimen, and while having fun.

Why Live Like a Goddess?

Because you deserve it, right now!

by Selena Fenech

You don’t need to have the perfect house, a fabulous job, a sexy man, a low body mass index, etc. to live well. You don’t need a lot of money either. Did you know that you can be financially busted and spiritually rich at the same time and be better off than most? It is true. Happiness comes from within. You only need permission from yourself and no one else to live like a Goddess. The main idea is to live in the present. In other words, do not waste time lamenting the past or fretting about the future. Living in the moment does not mean living without regard to the future, it means to release the anxiety about the future. Only in present time can you feel love or experience everyday sensual pleasures. Just try it. Take a moment to give that permission to yourself right now:

  1. I love myself and treat myself and others with respect.
  2. I am worthy of all the joy and happiness my heart can contain.
  3. I will give top priority my (and my family’s) health and well being.
  4. I am beautiful, kind, sensual, and smart (you are reading this blog, aren’t you?)
  5. Consumption in moderation is key.
  6. I will slow down often and notice the sights, smells, sounds, feelings, and tastes of the sensual beauty of life around and within me.

There you have it. You are a Goddess. Start living like one.

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