Happy Mother’s Day. Enjoy a (Guilt-Free) Piece of this Every Day.

If you never did you should. These things are fun and fun is good. ~ Dr. Seuss, One Fish, Two Fish

I hope all the mommies are laughing, relaxing, and thoroughly enjoying themselves.  But today is no different than any other.  Ok, maybe our culture does not exactly accept that we all like to laze around on the sofa, sleep for hours in a hammock, enjoy a yoga or dance class, or eat chocolate chip cookies for breakfast.  But be for real! That does not mean that you must live your entire life like a miserable mommyfied martyr.

It is important that there is time each and every day for us to experience some pleasure.  Otherwise we may burn out, feel resentful, or lose ourselves in what some other people’s constructed ideas of what motherhood should be.  [Read more...]

Much Ado about some Tween Pushup Bikini Tops

Why is everybody so up in arms?  You didn’t see this coming?  I did.  Big corporations are out do do only one thing:  make money, by any means necessary.  If that requires making women and little girls feel inadequate, so they’ll feel as though they desperately NEED certain products, then so be it.  Look at the advertisements.  Abercrombie isn’t even the worst.  Have you seen those American Eagle Outfitter ads on the back of magazines, posing pre-bloom girls like little sex kittens-in-training?  Have you ever passed by Limited Too, with the grown looking miniature outfits?

Take Control!

So you cry, you call the news, you make a big deal, but all that is completely unnecessary.  Just don’t buy it.  As a matter of fact, don’t even shop there anymore.  So I hear that it’s just not so easy because our daughters beg and plead for the those expensive rags? It’s not enough to just say no.  It is very important to help our girls understand why this is not good for them.

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6 Key Ways to Raise a Strong Goddess: A Parenting Guide

Everyone who is raising a daughter wishes for her to grow up to be happy, healthy, strong, capable, and intelligent. For some these simple tips are common sense. However, sometimes we may slip into the rut of the patriarchal, corporate, shallow aspect of our culture and may temporarily forget the basics of empowerment for young women. No matter, these tips demonstrate simple methods of instilling the very beginnings of honoring the divine feminine in your little girl.

  1. Encourage her to speak with a strong voice from the day she utters her first word. Too many of us have been programmed to be cute rather than to appear smart and powerful. Women and girls who whine, talk like babies, or speak without breathing deeply enough (producing that plastic frog-in-the-throat sound) are often not taken seriously by others or themselves.
  2. Allow her to make her own decisions. This will get her in to the habit of deliberating on what is right for her on her own and prepare her to be a strong-minded adult and help her to become less dependent on external influences as to what she really needs and wants throughout her life.
  3. Listen to what she has to say, and help her to gain the confidence to express herself with ease. The more precisely she is able to communicate with others, the more responsible she will be for the events in her life.
  4. Demonstrate to her how to set personal boundaries, both physical and non-physical (what she will allow others to do and say to her), and honor them. When she is confident in her ability to establish what is right and wrong for herself, she will display the confidence needed to command respect for her boundaries from others. She needs to learn from a very early age that it is completely acceptable to approve of or deny any physical or sexual advances from others. This important concept carries on into her adulthood and make her less likely to become the target of abuse.
  5. Let her experience the consequences of her own actions. Now use common sense, don’t let her get smashed by the truck for running into the street. But experiencing consequences that may be uncomfortable, but not harmful create lasting impressions and teach valuable lessons.
  6. Teach her to always look people in the eye. This helps her to be present with whomever she is interacting with, as well as to command respect from others.
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