Luxuriate in wellness! Live every day like a Goddess of health, beauty, confidence, and abundance. End the cycle of corny affirmations, jank fitness plans, unrealistic goals, unsustainable results, guilt, frustration and feeling like a hot mess. Instead, incorporate fun movement, sensuous nutrition, joy and simplicity into your own juicy wellness plan. Here you’ll discover new ways to manage stress, be gorgeous, boost your body image, get fit on your own terms, and most importantly, savor the good life. I’m LifeBliss Lisa, and this lifestyle blog is about my favorite things:Bellydance • Tantra/Sensual Spirituality • Food • Beauty • Fitness • Fun
Right now it’s time to bust the bubble of some self-help gurus who run about spouting off bullshit platitudes like this me time. Why is doing what we want to do sometimes such a big freakin’ deal for women? How often do we hear about men talking about taking some me time for golfing or detailing their cars?
Here’s the problem: Me time is nothing but another one of those pop culture (and you know how I HATE pop culture) constructs that got pulled and stretched and morphed into something far beyond any rational concept, yet people continue to fly that flag, thanks to a plethora of trite morning show segments manufacturing solutions to imagined problems for women. After I gave birth to my daughter many, many moons ago I would give the side-eye to those women who claimed that “OMG! I’m sooooooooo busy I’m LUCKY to get a shower in every day!” Whaaaaa!? You mean you don’t have any safe place in your house to put that baby down for 10-15 minutes so you can wash your dirty ass? Really? Or the other extreme: the mom I know of the badass monsta kids who announced for the 4th or 5th time in a month all over Twitter how she’s spending an entire day doing MEEEEEEEE time. For real? If my kid was that troubled and busy calling out for help I’d never have another minute of me time until she grew up! I guess I’m just responsible that way. Now I know I’m gonna get some hate mail for that one but before you get to flaming, first hear me out. Both of these scenarios are examples of women following some extreme invented media expectations, rather than a realistic individualized routine. [Read more...]
Now is not the time to beat yourself up. Whether it’s body shape, style, or skin and hair health, it is time to be gentle with yourself and realistically decide if your current lifestyle is serving you well. Why the end of summertime, you ask? Because the typical times that people look at themselves and consider change are unduly influenced by bogus media stories and pressure from advertisers. Early January is the absolute worst time to do this because every single television commercial, billboard, or magazine cover is going to tell you that you’re an ugly fat ass loser and need to buy this diet, workout, pill or lotion.
But at the end of summer you can look at reality on your own terms and decide whether you liked your energy levels during warm weather. Were you able to go out and play with your kids? Or if you spent time at the beach or pool, did you feel at ease with your body, or would you like to tighten up a bit? Did your hair have enough bounce and shine? While wearing less clothing were you happy with your skin’s condition or are you ready to pamper it a bit? [Read more...]
It’s summertime! It’s hot, and even though I don’t think this is the most beautiful time of year (Washington DC summers can be icky), it’s the time when the most fun is had because we’re just all out there. The days are longer and we’re wearing fewer clothes and no hats, scarves, and boots, so it takes effort to keep looking cute, and that’s not even to mention the heat!
I love beauty stuff, but I wouldn’t really consider myself a beauty maven, for one because I hate the word “maven” because it sounds so trite and superficial like those silly celebrity tabloid television show hosts. Anyway, I may have a slightly different perspective on beauty (as on everything) than does the mainstream. I strive for carefree beauty, which is an indicator of health, and easy to maintain. [Read more...]
I ran across this old story in the Washington Post. It’s about a village of women in Kenya. These women have been affected by all kinds of atrocities, violence and injustices. Somehow they came up with the strength to get together and establish their own village. The village of huts is where these women created a safe place to support and nurture one another.
What started as a group of homeless women looking for a place of their own became a successful and happy village. About three dozen women live here and run a cultural center and camping site for tourists visiting the adjacent Samburu National Reserve. Umoja has flourished, eventually attracting so many women seeking help that they even hired men to haul firewood, traditionally women’s work.
Umoja means unity.
We women of the diaspora talk about unity around certain times of the year but find it difficult to maintain for more than a few holidays. Everybody’s all kumbayah for a minute and later it’s back to the same old petty bickering and infighting again. We’ve all witnessed it, this fighting is often over some male that doesn’t respect either woman involved, jealousy over material things or beauty, or just plain nonsensical gossip. And if you’ve ever been involved in one of these squabbles (and we all have at one time or another), you know it seems impossible to overcome the swirling animosity.
I’m not going to tell you that cliche, “it takes a bigger person” because that’s such a glib crock of crap. The truth is, overcoming disunity takes a true and deep coming into the divine feminine, by at least one of the parties.
As an African American Goddess, the most important thing we need to do in order to embrace the unity of our sisterhood, despite all our challenges is to internalize the concept of Namaste: [Read more...]
Today is mother’s day. I’m not going to tell you the typical mother’s day corniness about how this is the hardest but happiest job on earth, bla bla bla. Or buy you one of those tacky plastic flowers and balloons ole’ Snaggletooth is selling down on the corner. Instead I’ll just share some thoughts that might be useful to someone out there.
My most important lessons learned about parenting are these:
Everybody wants to be heard. When your toddler is acting a damn fool in the grocery store, they want you to hear what they have to say. You can’t do that while talking on the phone or picking out some laundry detergent, and they know this. All you have to do is take 15 seconds to stop what you’re doing and get down to their eye level and pay attention to their plight. Even if you can’t give them exactly what they want at the moment, half of the solution is listening to them and sincerely acknowledging their feelings and the other is communicating to them what you can realistically do and when, and giving them an age-appropriate way to measure the time until that event. This also works for teenagers.
From a very early age, don’t just tell your babies what to do because you said so. Make it clear in their terms what you want for them and why, and be specific. For example, [Read more...]
This is my daring attempt at taking a topic that should be studied for months or years and should be an entire book and condensing it into a nice little introduction of the importance of balancing feminine and masculine energies.
We all have both masculine and feminine energy in our subtle bodies. You may be familiar with yin and yang. Similarly, in tantra, feminine and masculine energies are represented by Shakti and Shiva or Ida and Pingala are the energy channels called nadis. The feminine energy, or Shakti, like Yin, is characterized by cool, lunar, passive, intuitive, negative polarity and flows through Ida. Shiva, like Yang, is hot, solar, active, logical, positive polarity and flows through Pingala. The energetic body is a microcosm of the universe.
When the feminine and masculine energies are out of balance the result can be a real problem. Too much masculine energy manifests in greedy and aggressive behavior. When feminine energy dominates the result is depression and stagnation. These energies do not necessarily coincide with male and female roles in our society, but imbalance makes healthy relationships very difficult to maintain.
A Quick and Dirty Global Historical Context
In ancient times, the initial concept of a higher being was feminine. Most societies worshiped the Goddess, the Great Mother, creator, provider, and sustainer. Civilization was matriarchal, however, there is little archaeological evidence that the female members of these societies held themselves superior over their male counterparts. Humankind was in harmony with nature. The women had the common sense not to become drunk with power and abusive. Generally Goddess worship had been balanced with the honoring of both the male and the female. [Read more...]
If you know me, you know why I love this clip, and I don’t even drink whiskey:
We all need to carry a little bit of this with us.
I hear a lot of badmouthing about pizza by health and weight loss gurus. Pizza is only “bad” (I don’t agree with overly simplistic “good” and “bad” food labels) for you if it contains janky ingredients you don’t want to eat like preservatives, too much sugar, too much salt, and not enough fiber. But whenever I make homemade pizza I make a crispy whole grain crust, homemade sauce, fresh mozzarella and Parmesan, and fresh vegetables. If were were watching your fat intake, you could reduce the amount of cheese on top but the dish would still be completely bursting with awesome fresh flavor!
So pizza can be a part of a nutrilicious lifestyle, but easy? Yes, and I’ll prove it. This video is longer than I wanted it to be, but I had originally planned to do separate videos of the dough and the sauce, instead I just combined the two. I usually keep some pizza sauce in the fridge but I’ve been known to make the dough when I get home from work on a weekday for the evening meal. Here are a few healthful tips: always serve the pizza with a fresh salad. Use fresh mozzarella and shred it yourself. It allows for more uniform coverage and you can use much less than if you slice it and still get that overly-cheezified effect. If you have finicky eaters put the vegetables under the cheese. Note: I added this image of this veggalicous pizza-gasm a month later, because the pizza in the video was bum rushed by my hungry friends.
Here’s the recipe:
Everybody who knows me knows I hate bandwagons. What’s trending…flashmobs…the latest diet craze… It’s all like a bunch of lemmings jumping off a cliff, one after another. Btw, I found out that lemmings don’t actually do that, but it provides a telling image of what people do. The “healthy lifestyle” weight loss bandwagon is just that, just a bunch of the blind leading the blind, a special club of one-upping one another in the areas of guilt and self loathing. Don’t believe me? If you reach your weight goal or otherwise become satisfied with your body and eating habits, overt resentment will occur. I know, because I’ve been there and done that.
You began the year on the new year’s resolution bandwagon but now, in March, things are different. See, whaa-haa-haapened-wuz…isn’t that how it always starts? It’s stressful at work. There are no good fruits and vegetables in season this late in winter/early in spring. You got snowed in–no, wait! That’s a lie, not a bit of snow in Washington this winter. But anyway, the point is some of us are not eating right and getting the amount of exercise you want.
Face it, this is really about individual health and happiness, not other people’s stupid bandwagons. We may not have intended it to be so, but sometimes wellness moves in cycles. I generally don’t eat as well during the mid-winter as I do in spring through fall. It’s just the reality of the holidays with my personal preferences of in-season produce. Things are not going to change anytime soon. I’m sure I’m not the only one subject to these ups and downs. So what to do? [Read more...]
Let’s have some fun. It’s Friday of a 3-day weekend and I’m not feeling being all serious today.
I was sitting down just daydreaming about Goddess stuff, you know, the divine feminine spirit in all of us, and how unique and individual each on of them can be. Every woman is the Goddess of something. By this I am NOT talking about “claim to fame” which is my phrase that represents the personal untruths we display and relive for others. Claims to fame are complete bullshit. They have a singular purpose: masquerading to get attention from others. They may have been true at one point in life, but rather than letting them fade, like life phases do, sometimes they get held on to and dragged on and on and on. Some claims to fame were never true at all, just invented out of thin air.
Goddesses don’t need to try so hard to be unique and special. We just are. But failing to recognize this just makes a mess of things. I had a friend whose claim was not knowing how to cook. “Goddess of Can’t Even Boil Water”? Whaaaah da Haaaaay-ou!? (<—I got that from my teenage daughter Goddess of translating Ghetto-Fab Phrases LOL) So this meant my friend couldn’t ever learn to cook, no matter how much she loves to eat homemade food because doing so would cause her to drop the mask and abandon her claim to fame. [Read more...]